Dealing with common Disputes amongst the Muslims

The following article is a response to the too often occuring phenomenon of Muslims disputing between o­ne another or unjustifiably accusing o­ne another of sins and deviations. This sad occurrence, that ideally should not happen between brethren, has many causes.

Sometimes the matter in question and the actions taken by o­ne party or another can reach the level of sheer enmity and has lead to major rifts and caused great confusion among Muslims and those who should be assisting o­ne another in righteousness and piety are instead at each others throats! Please take note of the actual examples and practical measures brought forth by the author and may Allah protect us from the regrettable situations described and help us to overcome them in the event of their occurrence, ameen. A close look is being taken in the situation where a Muslim accuses another of not respecting the great scholars of Islam. - Ed. 
How Should Muslims Treat Differing Opinions Among the Major Scholars of Ahlus-Sunnah? We as Muslims are obligated to follow what we think and feel is correct, based upon the evidences of the Qur'aan and Sunnah. It doesn't mean that we show disrespect for any scholars or curse them if we do not agree with every single opinion of theirs. It is not allowed for the student of knowledge to do blind taqleed (blind and unquestioned following) in matters that he can research and see the evidences of both sides. o­ne should however be qualified - in general in basic matters of the Islamic sciences - to read what the scholars say about an issue, and then do ijtihaad based o­n what they said and choose an opinion amongst their opinions. This is basically the ijtihaad that a student of knowledge is capable of. Never should such a student willingly or intentionally speak in a derogatory manner about any great scholar, or try to denigrate his status. A student of knowledge should express nothing but love and respect for the 'ulamaa. It is important that we take from ALL the major scholars in our times, such as Sh. Ibn Baaz, Sh. Al-Albaani, and Sh. Ibn Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy upon their souls) etc, and that we do not let differences of fiqh - or other differences - that exist between these scholars become differences amongst our hearts, and cause us to look down upon o­ne another. If someone wishes to follows o­ne particular opinion from o­ne scholar, then that is fine, but let him not consider someone who opposes this particular opinion to be a deviant, especially when the major scholars themselves do not do so. How many points did Sh. Al-Albani and Sh. Ibn Baaz (rahimahumallah) differ in, yet did any of these points cause o­ne of them to look down upon the other and consider him to be weak or deviated? No. Rather, there was nothing but love and respect between these two great scholars of the da'wah as-salafiyyah (the call to the way of the pious previous generations of the Muslims), and we should all learn from them in this.
What To Do In The Face Of Accusations It is important that when we hear something about someone, we check it and verify that it is true, in accordance with the statement of Allaah, "If a faasiq comes to you, then confirm (what he says)..."[Al-Hujuraat]. Likewise, when a wife came to the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) and complained that her husband did not pray Fajr, and beat her when she prayed, and forced her to break her fast, the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) called him and confirmed what she said. When the husband explained these three points (which outwardly appear to be major sins, if not bordering o­n kufr) to the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) agreed with him and excused him. (Al-Bukhaari) Also, when Abdullaah ibn Amr ibn al-Aas (radiallahu 'anhumaa) said, "I will fast every day as long as I live, and pray every night as long as I live" and this news reached the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam), he called for him, and asked him, "Did you say this and this?" And he replied, "Yes, may my mother and father be your ransom...(the hadeeth continues...)" (Al-Bukhaari) The point is that it is imperative that the Muslim not believe everything he hears, especially when it involves the honor, or even greater - the aqeedah and manhaj - of his brother Muslim. The Prophet (sallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "It is sufficient for a person to be a liar if he spreads everything he hears." It is also important that, after he has confirmed whether something is true or not, he find out WHY that person did or said what he did. This is proven in the hadeeth of Haatib ibn Abee Balta'ah (radiallaahu 'anhu), who sent a letter to the Mushrikeen warning them that the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) planned to attack them. Outwardly, this is clear and open treachery; the penalty for this should be immediate death! Yet, when the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) called him, he asked him, "Why did you do what you did!" When Haatib explained why, the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) said, "You have spoken the truth! No o­ne should say anything except good about him." (Al-Bukhaari) So, if a brother gives you a valid excuse for doing what he did, you should accept it from him. An Important Rule To Apply When Making Judgements I would like to bring to your attention o­ne simple rule from the sciences of jarh wa tadeel (declaring someone to be weak or strong in narrating hadeeth; and by extension, in his aqeedah or manhaj). Al-Haafidh Adh-Dhahabi said, "Most of what is narrated from contemporaries about o­ne another [i.e., people from the same place and level] deserves to be rejected and thrown away, nor should it be narrated, nor should it be taken into account as defamation (against him). Rather, the person should be treated fairly and justly." Likewise, Al-Haafidh Ibn Hajr said, "A lot of times, there occurs between contemporaries differences (amongst themselves)...so,in all such cases, it is important that we be cautious and consider (all of these factors)." Basically, the general rule is that if two people do not get along with each other, and there is a strong reason to believe that it is based o­n something personal between them (for example, they are in the same city and have relatively same status), then in this case, if other people do not agree with his verdict, it is not allowed to take from him in this. The examples of this are many: Imaam Al-Bukhaari and Imam Adh-Dhuhali, both Imaams of Ahl as-Sunnah, fell into great differences, so much so that Adh-Dhuhali was the cause of Al-Bukhaari getting kicked out of his city. He declared Al-Bukhaari to be a deviant mubtadi' (innovator) in his 'aqeedah! Yet, we do not take this ruling from him, and consider both of these people to be great scholars in their particular fields. Likewise, there occurred some harsh words between Imam Yahya ibn Ma'een and Imaam Ash-Shafi'ee, but we do not take sides between these two great scholars, and ignore what each of them had to say about the other. In another example, there occurred a lot of friction between Imaam Maalik and Muhammad ibn Ishaaq (the most famous author of the seerah), to such an extent that Imaam Maalik - keep in mind who he is in knowledge and status - declared Ibn Ishaaq to be a Dajjaal amongst the Dajjaals!!! However, we do not take this particular ruling from him, since there is a strong possibility that Shaytaan caused some rift between them, and we find that the other scholars did not agree with Imaam Maalik in this case. In yet another example, the differences between Aboo Nu`aym and Ibn Mandah - both of whom are famous authors and scholars amongst the scholars of Ahlus-Sunnah - reached such a level that it almost broke out into a physical fight! Yet, o­nce again, it is not proper that we quote this incident as a means to show disrespect to any o­ne of these two figures. In all of these instances, we do not take the statements of these Imaams concerning their contemporaries for two simple reasons: 1) We find that those who knew them better did not agree with these rulings 2) There is a strong possibility that Shaytaan caused some type of personal friction and problem between them, so we leave these words between them. This does not lessen the status of the Imaam that we did not take from; rather, it proves that they are o­nly human! 

An Evil Scenario There have been instances where o­ne person sets out to cast blame upon another among the people. At the same time, instead of approaching the o­ne with who he has a dispute or contention with in a brotherly fashion to deal with the matter, such a person outwardly maintains a 'friendly' disposition, giving salaams to the o­ne he really has a problem with, talking with him, etc. apparently ignoring the very wrong that he accuses the person of! He never o­nce at an early stage (when things could likely be solved), comes and gives advice directly to the other person, or cautions about the supposed deviancies etc. However, what needs to be done, is that he immediately contact this person and try to give him naseehah (advice) in a polite manner (this is the general rule; the o­nly time naseehah should be given in public is if the person is spreading incorrect ideas in public). If he ignores going to the person, and instead starts backbiting about him, then in such circumstances the Shaytaan causes a rift between the two. The o­ne may stop giving salaams to the other and even start spreading that the other is a deviant. It may even go to the extent that he or she goes to colleagues of the other, calls up his or her acquaintances and spreads lies amongst people that the other hardly knows. Another surprising thing is that when a person will NEVER o­nCE warn the closest of the other's friends about these supposed deviances. Instead, they o­nly go to people that do not know o­ne other well. If you believe a person to be a deviant, then the first people that you should approach are his close friends and relatives, so that they may be able to address and correct the situation or not be taken in by him. Surely o­ne should never go to anyone with such a serious charge without clear cut and indisputable evidence to substantiate it. To conclude, we live in a time of fitnah. o­ne does not like to bring up these points, nor wish to talk about differences. Each and every o­ne of us needs to be spending his time in a much more wiser and useful manner than defending themselves from dispute. Speech made to show the shortcomings of another causes nothing but hardness of the heart, and no o­ne benefits more than Shaytaan when he sees the Muslims who agree o­n the correct beliefs and way according to the Sunnah and the pious predecessors (as-Salaf) themselves - especially the students of knowledge - attack and defame each other. It was our hope that inshaa Allaah we could say a word to help prevent and stop the fitnah of false accusation and blaming o­ne another and not allow Muslims to waste their time in such matters any more. Lastly, o­ne should not necessarily consider the person that spreads rumors about him to be a deviant; rather, o­ne should pray that Allaah guides him and removes whatever is in his heart against his brother or sister. Often such a person may have great potential for dda'wah We sincerely pray that we will be amongst those concerning whom Allaah says of in the Qur'aan: "And We (will) remove whatever is in their hearts of hatred (for each other); (they will be like) brothers, upon couches, reclining and facing each other." Wa Aakhira da'waana anil hamdulillaahi Rabbil aalameen The author is a student at the Islamic University of Madinah

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Agenda Harian

Semoga kita senantiasa terpacu untuk mengukir prestasi amal yang akan memperberat timbangan kebaikan di yaumil akhir, berikut rangkaian yang bisa dilakukan

1. Agenda pada sepertiga malam akhir

a. Menunaikan shalat tahajjud dengan memanjangkan waktu pada saat ruku’ dan sujud di dalamnya,

b. Menunaikan shalat witir

c. Duduk untuk berdoa dan memohon ampun kepada Allah hingga azan subuh

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

يَنْزِلُ رَبُّنَا تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى كُلَّ لَيْلَةٍ إِلَى السَّمَاءِ الدُّنْيَا حِينَ يَبْقَى ثُلُثُ اللَّيْلِ الْآخِرُ فَيَقُولُ مَنْ يَدْعُونِي فَأَسْتَجِيبَ لَهُ مَنْ يَسْأَلُنِي فَأُعْطِيَهُ مَنْ يَسْتَغْفِرُنِي فَأَغْفِرَ لَهُ

“Sesungguhnya Allah SWT selalu turun pada setiap malam menuju langit dunia saat 1/3 malam terakhir, dan Dia berkata: “Barangsiapa yang berdoa kepada-Ku maka akan Aku kabulkan, dan barangsiapa yang meminta kepada-Ku maka akan Aku berikan, dan barangsiapa yang memohon ampun kepada-Ku maka akan Aku ampuni”. (HR. Bukhari Muslim)


2. Agenda Setelah Terbit Fajar

a. Menjawab seruan azan untuk shalat subuh

” الَّلهُمَّ رَبَّ هَذِهِ الدَّعْوَةِ التَّامَّةِ وَالصَّلاَةِ الْقَائِمَةِ آتِ مُحَمَّدًا الْوَسِيْلَةَ وَالْفَضِيْلَةَ وَابْعَثْهُ مَقَامًا مَحْمُوْدًا الَّذِي وَعَدْتَهُ “

“Ya Allah, Tuhan pemilik seruan yang sempurna ini, shalat yang telah dikumandangkan, berikanlah kepada Nabi Muhammad wasilah dan karunia, dan bangkitkanlah dia pada tempat yang terpuji seperti yang telah Engkau janjikan. (Ditashih oleh Al-Albani)

b. Menunaikan shalat sunnah fajar di rumah dua rakaat

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

رَكْعَتَا الْفَجْرِ خَيْرٌ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا وَمَا فِيْهَا

“Dua rakaat sunnah fajar lebih baik dari dunia dan segala isinya”. (Muslim)

وَ قَدْ قَرَأَ النَّبِيُّ صَلىَّ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ سَلَّمَ فِي رَكْعَتَي الْفَجْرِ قُلْ يَا أَيُّهَا الْكَافِرُوْنَ وَقُلْ هُوَ اللهُ أَحَدَ

“Nabi saw pada dua rakaat sunnah fajar membaca surat “Qul ya ayyuhal kafirun” dan “Qul huwallahu ahad”.

c. Menunaikan shalat subuh berjamaah di masjid –khususnya- bagi laki-laki.

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

وَلَوْ يَعْلَمُوْنَ مَا فِي الْعَتْمَةِ وَالصُّبْحِ لأَتَوْهُمَا وَلَوْ حَبْوًا

“Sekiranya manusia tahu apa yang ada dalam kegelapan dan subuh maka mereka akan mendatanginya walau dalam keadaan tergopoh-gopoh” (Muttafaqun alaih)

بَشِّرِ الْمَشَّائِيْنَ فِي الظّلَمِ إِلَى الْمَسَاجِدِ بِالنُّوْرِ التَّامِّ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ

“Berikanlah kabar gembira kepada para pejalan di kegelapan menuju masjid dengan cahaya yang sempurna pada hari kiamat”. (Tirmidzi dan ibnu Majah)

d. Menyibukkan diri dengan doa, dzikir atau tilawah Al-Quran hingga waktu iqamat shalat

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

الدُّعَاءُ لاَ يُرَدُّ بَيْنَ الأَذَانِ وَالإِقَامَةِ

“Doa antara adzan dan iqamat tidak akan ditolak” (Ahmad dan Tirmidzi dan Abu Daud)

e. Duduk di masjid bagi laki-laki /mushalla bagi wanita untuk berdzikir dan membaca dzikir waktu pagi

Dalam hadits nabi disebutkan:

كَانَ النَّبِيُّ صَلىَّ اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : ” إَذَا صَلَّى الْفَجْرَ تَرَبَّعَ فِي مَجْلِسِهِ حَتَّى تَطْلُعَ الشَّمْسُ الْحَسَنَاءُ

” Nabi saw jika selesai shalat fajar duduk di tempat duduknya hingga terbit matahari yang ke kuning-kuningan”. (Muslim)

Agenda prioritas

Membaca Al-Quran.

Allah SWT berfirman:

“Sesungguhnya waktu fajar itu disaksikan (malaikat). (Al-Isra : 78) Dan memiliki komitmen sesuai kemampuannya untuk selalu:

- Membaca ½ hizb dari Al-Quran untuk mendapatkan khatam Al-Quran sebanyak 1 kali

- Membaca 1 hizb dari Al-Quran untuk mendapatkan khatam Al-Quran sebanyak 2 kali

- Bagi yang mampu menambah lebih banyak dari itu semua, maka akan menuai kebaikan berlimpah insya Allah.

3. Menunaikan shalat Dhuha walau hanya dua rakaat

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

يُصْبِحُ عَلَى كُلِّ سُلَامَى مِنْ أَحَدِكُمْ صَدَقَةٌ فَكُلُّ تَسْبِيحَةٍ صَدَقَةٌ وَكُلُّ تَحْمِيدَةٍ صَدَقَةٌ وَكُلُّ تَهْلِيلَةٍ صَدَقَةٌ وَكُلُّ تَكْبِيرَةٍ صَدَقَةٌ وَأَمْرٌ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ صَدَقَةٌ وَنَهْيٌ عَنْ الْمُنْكَرِ صَدَقَةٌ وَيُجْزِئُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ رَكْعَتَانِ يَرْكَعُهُمَا مِنْ الضُّحَى

“Setiap ruas tulang tubuh manusia wajib dikeluarkan sedekahnya, setiap hari ketika matahari terbit. Mendamaikan antara dua orang yang berselisih adalah sedekah, menolong orang dengan membantunya menaiki kendaraan atau mengangkat kan barang ke atas kendaraannya adalah sedekah, kata-kata yang baik adalah sedekah, tiap-tiap langkahmu untuk mengerjakan shalat adalah sedekah, dan membersihkan rintangan dari jalan adalah sedekah”. (Bukhari dan Muslim)

4. Berangkat kerja atau belajar dengan berharap karena Allah

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

مَا أَكَلَ أَحَدٌ طَعَامًا خَيْرًا مِنْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ مِنْ عَمِلِ يَدِهِ، وَكَانَ دَاوُدُ لا يَأْكُلُ إِلا مِنْ عَمِلِ يَدِهِ

“Tidaklah seseorang memakan makanan, lebih baik dari yang didapat oleh tangannya sendiri, dan bahwa nabi Daud makan dari hasil tangannya sendiri”. (Bukhari)

Dalam hadits lainnya nabi juga bersabda:

مَنْ سَلَكَ طَرِيقًا يَلْتَمِسُ فِيهِ عِلْمًا سَهَّلَ اللَّهُ لَهُ طَرِيقًا إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ

“Barangsiapa yang berjalan dalam rangka mencari ilmu, maka Allah akan memudahkan baginya jalan menuju surga”. (Muslim)

d. Menyibukkan diri dengan dzikir sepanjang hari

Allah berfirman :

أَلَا بِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَطْمَئِنُّ الْقُلُوبُ

“Ketahuilah dengan berdzikir kepada Allah maka hati akan menjadi tenang” (Ra’ad : 28)

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

أَحَبُّ الأَعْمَالِ إِلَى اللهَ أَنْ تَمُوْتَ ولسانُك رَطْبٌ من ذِكْرِ الله

“Sebaik-baik perbuatan kepada Allah adalah saat engkau mati sementara lidahmu basah dari berdzikir kepada Allah” (Thabrani dan Ibnu Hibban) .

5. Agenda saat shalat Zhuhur

a. Menjawab azan untuk shalat Zhuhur, lalu menunaikan shalat Zhuhur berjamaah di Masjid khususnya bagi laki-laki

b. Menunaikan sunnah rawatib sebelum Zhuhur 4 rakaat dan 2 rakaat setelah Zhuhur

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

مَنْ صَلَّى اثْنَتَيْ عَشْرَةَ رَكْعَةً فِي يَوْمٍ وَلَيْلَةٍ بُنِيَ لَهُ بِهِنَّ بَيْتٌ فِي الْجَنَّةِ

“Barangsiapa yang shalat 12 rakaat pada siang dan malam hari maka Allah akan membangunkan baginya dengannya rumah di surga”. (Muslim).

6. Agenda saat dan setelah shalat Ashar

a. Menjawab azan untuk shalat Ashar, kemudian dilanjutkan dengan menunaikan shalat Ashar secara berjamaah di masjid

b. Mendengarkan nasihat di masjid (jika ada)

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

مَنْ غَدَا إِلَى الْمَسْجِدِ لا يُرِيدُ إِلا أَنْ يَتَعَلَّمَ خَيْرًا أَوْ يَعْلَمَهُ، كَانَ لَهُ كَأَجْرِ حَاجٍّ تَامًّا حِجَّتُهُ

“Barangsiapa yang pergi ke masjid tidak menginginkan yang lain kecuali belajar kebaikan atau mengajarkannya, maka baginya ganjaran haji secara sempurna”. (Thabrani – hasan shahih)

c. Istirahat sejenak dengan niat yang karena Allah

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

وَإِنَّ لِبَدَنِكَ عَلَيْكَ حَقٌّ

“Sesungguhnya bagi setiap tubuh atasmu ada haknya”.

Agenda prioritas:

Membaca Al-Quran dan berkomitmen semampunya untuk:

- Membaca ½ hizb dari Al-Quran untuk mendapatkan khatam Al-Quran sebanyak 1 kali

- Membaca 1 hizb dari Al-Quran untuk mendapatkan khatam Al-Quran sebanyak 2 kali

- Bagi yang mampu menambah sesuai kemampuan, maka akan menuai kebaikan yang berlimpah insya Allah.

7. Agenda sebelum Maghrib

a. Memperhatikan urusan rumah tangga – melakukan mudzakarah – Menghafal Al-Quran

b. Mendengarkan ceramah, nasihat, khutbah, untaian hikmah atau dakwah melalui media

c. Menyibukkan diri dengan doa

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

الدُّعَاءُ هُوَ الْعِبَادَةُ

“Doa adalah ibadah”

8. Agenda setelah terbenam matahari

a. Menjawab azan untuk shalat Maghrib

b. Menunaikan shalat Maghrib secara berjamaah di masjid (khususnya bagi laki-laki)

c. Menunaikan shalat sunnah rawatib setelah Maghrib – 2 rakaat

d. Membaca dzikir sore

e. Mempersiapkan diri untuk shalat Isya lalu melangkahkan kaki menuju masjid

Rasulullah saw bersabda:

مَنْ تَطَهَّرَ فِي بَيْتِهِ ثُمَّ مَشَى إِلَى بَيْتٍ مِنْ بُيُوتِ اللَّهِ لِيَقْضِيَ فَرِيضَةً مِنْ فَرَائِضِ اللَّهِ كَانَتْ خَطْوَتَاهُ إِحْدَاهُمَا تَحُطُّ خَطِيئَةً وَالْأُخْرَى تَرْفَعُ دَرَجَةً

“Barangsiapa yang bersuci/berwudhu kemudian berjalan menuju salah satu dari rumah-rumah Allah untuk menunaikan salah satu kewajiban dari kewajiban Allah, maka langkah-langkahnya akan menggugurkan kesalahan dan yang lainnya mengangkat derajatnya”. (Muslim)

9. Agenda pada waktu shalat Isya

a. Menjawab azan untuk shalat Isya kemudian menunaikan shalat Isya secara jamaah di masjid

b. Menunaikan shalat sunnah rawatib setelah Isya – 2 rakaat

c. Duduk bersama keluarga/melakukan silaturahim

d. Mendengarkan ceramah, nasihat dan untaian hikmah di Masjid

e. Dakwah melalui media atau lainnya

f. Melakukan mudzakarah

g. Menghafal Al-Quran

Agenda prioritas

Membaca Al-Quran dengan berkomitmen sesuai dengan kemampuannya untuk:

- Membaca ½ hizb dari Al-Quran untuk mendapatkan khatam Al-Quran sebanyak 1 kali

- Membaca 1 hizb dari Al-Quran untuk mendapatkan khatam Al-Quran sebanyak 2 kali

- Bagi yang mampu menambah sesuai kemampuan bacaan maka telah menuai kebaikan berlimpah insya Allah.


Apa yang kita jelaskan di sini merupakan contoh, sehingga tidak harus sama persis dengan yang kami sampaikan, kondisional tergantung masing-masing individu. Semoga ikhtiar ini bisa memandu kita untuk optimalisasi ibadah insya Allah. Allahu a’lam

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